There’s a popular meme that says feminists call differential treatment chivalry when we like it and sexism when we don’t.
This is false. The supposed “perks” of being a lady are largely the result of “benevolent sexism,” a set of behaviors shown to be harmful to both women and social activism specifically because people often fail to see them for what they really are: practices steeped in restrictive stereotypes of masculinity and femininity that hinder gender equality by keeping men in a position of dominance over women.
This is not to say people should treat each other poorly because chivalry and civility are not the same thing. Being decent to someone because you’re a conscientious human being is different from being decent to someone because that someone is a delicate, helpless lady.— (via ogdoad)